Sunday, June 10, 2012

This must be the place...

When my husband and I started dating, he used to make me mixed tapes. I love that memory and will hold on to each of the tapes until they fully disintegrate.  You do realize that means he sat through each song and perfectly timed each piece.  It's a bit more personal than clicking a bunch of songs from a play list and burning them to a disc in a matter of seconds.

One time, I was expressing some anxiety about wanting to feel like he loved me.  My husband, from time to time, expresses in unorthodox ways and I suppose I was having an insecure moment- as could happen to anyone else, I'm sure.  Anyway, the next day, he made me a mixed tape that was all the songs that described how he felt about me and I just bawled.  The first song on the tape was "This Must be the Place" by the Talking Heads.  


What can I say?  He's a sentimental guy.  

" Home is where I want to be
Pick me up and turn me round
I feel numb - burn with a weak heart
guess I must be having fun
The less we say about it the better
Make it up as we go along
Feet on the ground
Head in the sky
It's ok i know nothing's wrong . . nothing

Hi yo I got plenty of time
Hi yo you got light in your eyes
And you're standing here beside me
I love the passing of time
Never for money
Always for love
Cover up + say goodnight . . . say goodnight

Home - is where I want to be
But i guess i'm already there
I come home - -she lifted up her wings
Guess that this must be the place
I can't tell one from another
Did i find you, or you find me?
There was a time before we were born
If someone asks, this where I'll be . . . where I'll be

Hi yo we drift in and out
Hi yo sing into my mouth
Out of all those kinds of people
You got a face with a view
I'm just an animal looking for a home
Share the same space for a minute or two
And you love me till my heart stops
Love me till I'm dead
Eyes that light up, eyes look through you
Cover up the blank spots
Hit me on the head ah ooh"

It really had me thinking, I've always wanted to be a supportive wife.  Right now, my husband is in the seat of being supportive.  Many things are going to change in the next couple of months.  They are good changes, though emotional ones as well, but as long as we are facing things together, as a team, I guess we will always land 'home' together and find our homes within each other.  It is the same support as given in Ruth from the Bible: "Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God."  (Ruth 1:16)  I am grateful for a husband who is willing to journey with me and supports me.   

Photo circa Feb. 2003, West Hall, University of Central Oklahoma (around mixed tape time)


  1. ...and all is right with the world...just as it should be...
    Love you both,

  2. you guys were/are criminally cute.

  3. argh, why did google make me look creepy and anonymous? that was me, heidi.